By way of introduction, if you would like to see what Eric Berne and other early TA authors wrote about autonomy, I have provided a summary (Hay, 2017) as a free download – go to https://www.juliehay.org/article-downloads.html and look for Autonomy – Early Material.
Generally autonomy is described as having three elements, which Berne referred to as awareness, spontaneity and intimacy, although he described the third element in terms of the first two.
In Hay (1995) I changed some of the words so that they all began with the same letter (to make them easier to remember – but feel free to change them back if you prefer – misery is optional). I added another element, so that I had awareness, alternatives (instead of spontaneity), attachment (instead of intimacy) and authenticity.
Since then I have added a fifth element – accountability (Hay, 2014). I described these as:
In 1995 I also suggested some reminders to help us maintain autonomy as we interact with others:
These three valuable keys to autonomy are all easier to achieve if we do as the American Indians suggest – walk in the other person’s moccasins for a while. If we put ourselves in their shoes and do our best to share their frame of reference, we will be better able to connect with them.
Hay, Julie (1995) Donkey Bridges for Developmental TA Watford: Sherwood Publishing
Hay, Julie (2014) Extending the Donkey Bridge for Autonomy IDTA Newsletter 9:1 8
Hay, Julie (2017) Autonomy – Some of the Early Material IDTA Newsletter 12:3 16-21
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